Stop complaining and start changing

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

Millennium Lady is on her soapbox again.

STOP COMPLAINING AND START CHANGING!!! 

If you say that your life is chaos or crappy. If you complain of things not going your way. Guess what? It is your fault. Yep, you heard me. IT IS YOUR FAULT! Not mine nor your parents, who abused you or who mistreated you. You decide how you lead your life after the bad times. You decide how your day is gonna be and whether or not your boss is gonna get you down.

Why is Millennium Lady on her soapbox again? Because all around me people are complaining of the crappy relationships they are in or always complaining of their lives being chaos. The same people are complaining of the same circumstances for years. Your friends' and my ears are tired of listening to the record player on repeat. Please choose a new album.

You are the one who can change your circumstances and your outlook on life. And I'm going to throw in my life quote: "Happiness is an inside job" and so is everything else! 

Stop complaining and start changing!

Painting for holiday fun

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

What do you do when you get bored? You get creative (sometimes).

This year, I will have my own room at my residence and it will be a lot bigger, so I need to decorate it with more things. But decorations are expensive and not exactly what I want, therefore I decided to buy and paint my own decorations with my favorite color: Blue, especially turquoise.

Adventure: my word for 2015

"The very basic core of a man's living spirit is his passion for adventure."- Christopher McCandless

This is my motto for 2015. I simply want to have fun and adventures. Read about it here.

Happ(y)iness: My word of 2014

My motto and word for 2014 was: Happiness and the motto: Happiness is an inside job. I had an extremely happy year and it was because I chose to be happy. Read about it here.

I am impressed with my attempts at painting! I will take orders (ha-ha).

The importance of 'I'

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

I, is a very important word. Why? Because it all starts with YOU. With me.

I really think I should become an ambassador for this quote, because I've been promoting it and using it constantly. This quote has been a symbol to me since my life made a change for the better, and my life made a change for the better, because I realized that HAPPINESS IS AN INSIDE JOB!

Yes, Millenium Lady is preaching again or as I would like to call it: Soapbox! Constantly, I hear friends complainig that their significant others are not making them happy.
Now, the problem is that I don't go into a relationship to make someone happy for the duration of that relationship. I go into that relationship, because I like them. It is not your task to make someone happy and it is also not their task to make you happy! You have to contribute to each other's happiness, not take it from unhappiness to happiness.

YOU! YOU! YOU! You are responsible for being happy. You determine your own future. You have to realize that YOU determining how your life is. No one made the choices for you. If you don't like where you are in life or about the choices you made: Today is a good day to start changing it.

We all have our off-days, when we'd rather stay in bed, watch movies and eat ice-cream out of a tub and that is perfectly fine. But today is a really good day to make a change for the better. The catch is: YOU have to make that change alone. No one is going to change for you or will be changed by you. YOU have to be the change. If you want the world to change, you have to be the change. Start with the person in the mirror- wise advice from the legend Michael Jackson and here is the video- you're welcome!

My challenge for you is to make you own happiness and just be happy!
Peace, love and everything nice!

Day 10: The best advice I ever received

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

I've missed a few days of the #writersbootcampZA, due to being very busy with birthday celebrations that happened and then the studying for a test and catching up with friends. Finally, I'm back! I decided not to write about the days that I have missed because it won't be relevant anymore.

My mom is my biggest role model and she taught since I was a little girl that no one can make you happy, except you! You determine your own happiness. I wrote a blog post about it earlier this year: Are you happy?

I believe that every moment of every day, you choose to happy! Don't complain about the little things, appreciate all the little things! Do not depend on other people to make you happy, you will be disappointed! BOOM!

Happiness is an inside job! 

That is the best advice I received from my mother. I always choose to be happy and I AM! 

Soapbox about abuse and relationships.

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

A few months ago, I wrote a post about 'What is abuse?'. Last night, I dreamed that I was back in my past life. I woke up in cold sweat and fear.

I have been thinking about my past life a lot, because I was helping a friend to also get out of her abusive relationship with her boyfriend.
Abuse doesn't only come in a physical form. It is verbal, financial, etc. Go and read this post Things abusers say and do. 
Why am I on my soapbox? Because abuse is NOT OKAY!!!

Everyday on campus, I see couples fighting. My friends tell me what their boyfriends said to them in a fight and all I can think about is ABUSE, ABUSE, MANIPULATION, ABUSE....

I didn't read in textbooks what abuse is. I had firsthand experience. My past life consisted of a verbal abusing, emotional manipulating biological father. At the age of 15, on the 6th December 2008, was the day that I decided NO MORE! I am DONE with being scared. I am DONE with being unhappy! I am DONE honoring my parents, like the Bible says, when my father doesn't honor me! 

A person will never make you fully happy. The right person can only add to your happiness. You have to realize that only you can make yourself happy. My favorite quote of all time is: Happiness is an inside job. -Anon. It took me a while to realize this. 

My first step to happiness in life, was when I chose that I am DONE with being unhappy. 

My baby sister, Mieka, was born on 21 December 2008. Merely, 15 days after I decided to choose happiness. She is my symbol of New Beginnings. She is beautiful and I am glad to call her my sister.

My mom raised me to be strong, to be open-minded and also that I have to determine my own happiness. No man or friend is going to do it for you. 

My mom, the most amazing dad and sister! I love my reconstructed family!

I cannot force my friends to walk out of their relationships, sometimes I wish I could, but everyone has to make that decision for themselves. Fool me once, shame on YOU! Fool me twice, shame on ME! 

This dream I had, really upset me and I thought this soapbox was needed. 

If you have any thoughts or comments, please feel free :)

This Lady is getting 2 crowns

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

I'm getting two crowns, just not the one's that is put on your head, but on your teeth! On the 22nd of February, I will have a beautiful smile! The excitement is so HIGH!

When I was 11, I got braces. when my braces came off, I had sore teeth. It was abscess' in two of my teeth.

The dentist took it out, but afterwards he closed it immediately, causing my teeth to bleed and nowhere to drain. They turned BLUE! So, I had bluetooth x 2.

I have been for a few whitening sessions and my teeth look a little better, but it's still discolored and I'm very self-conscious about it. I want a beautiful smile again that is all-white! Now, finally it is becoming a reality in less than 5 weeks!

Watch this space-in 5 weeks!!!

"Be true to your teeth and they won't be false to you"- Anon.

Are you happy?

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

Today, I was walking in the shops and I was thinking about how happy I am. I realized I am EXTREMELY HAPPY!

Me and my study buddy, Merieke

Why am I so happy? Because I realized, happiness is an inside job! No one else can make you happy, except for you! You can not wait for someone else to make you happy, because they are only gonna disappoint you.

Not even your Prince in shining armor can make you happy. You have to D.I.Y.

Happiness is also my motto and goal for 2014. In every situation in every day, I'm going to choose to be happy! I am going to see the beauty in each day and enjoy it to the fullest. Carpe diem!

Hope you have a awesome evening, my amazing blog readers! xxx

To-do list for the year

By Arnia Kiara Oosthuizen

Every year one makes New Years resolutions and have all these great plans, but this year I'm keeping it simple...

That... and happiness. Everything I do, I will choose to be happy.

Happiness will be my goal and motto for 2014. Life is short and wasted if one is not happy all the time!